I have my thoughts on the Richie Incognito-Jonathan Martin as many others do throughout the media and thought I'd share them here, so I'd be grateful for anything you have to say.
Anyway, I come out on this point saying that both Incognito and Martin could have handled the situation better and in turn, both of them will prove to be pariahs when it's all said and done.
While not guilty of anything, the fact that Martin went to the media with his story will not bode well for him in any locker room he may be in moving forward. I am a former player and current reporter, and therefore have been in numerous locker rooms and the culture therein is still highly antiquated, at least in high school and college locker rooms.
Even though I have never been in an NFL locker room, I would surmise that, per the information in Ted Wells' report, that the environment is no different at the professional level and in some ways, it may be even worse.
Because I have particular quirks that others like to make fun of, I, throughout my life, have been subjected to bullying and disrespectful treatment and the only way to get through it is to "endure to the end," as harsh as it sounds.
When I was a Mormon missionary in Tucson and El Paso, other missionaries mocked me for doing things differently primarily because that's what young men aged 19-21 do. Nevertheless, I went out and did my job and eventually things got better.
I am happy to report that as soon as I had a reunion with the bullies, they had become my allies, lifelong friends to be precise.
The real tragedy to me is, Incognito and Martin can never make peace with one another, things will only further spiral downward from here if they should ever interact again, I imagine.
Now, I would like to see Commissioner Goodell play hardball with Incognito and ban him for life, but I really don't think that will be necessary. While "whining and crying" are not smiled upon in the locker room environment, no one likes a bully and I cannot imagine that Incognito will have many offers moving forward.
In any case, I hope things get better for Martin and may you guys have a successful season, Broncos-Dolphins in the AFC Championship game, let's see it happen!