First off, I will willingly admit that I have worked long and hard to get the way I am. So I aint changin now to please anyone else. That's not to say I will not see a different view or change my opinion, but as the old saying goes "Trust is Earned not Given", I think it is the same with opinions. You have to show me a good reason and/or prove me wrong over a period of time. Parcells put it another way, "you are what your record says you are".
I will bring up two cases. The first is Ricky Williams. The first interview I can remember seeing was when he played for the Saints and he would not take his helmet off. I was not sure what to think. Is he that shy...is he that arrogant...does he hate the press? Anyone that has had any dealings with the press knows how they can twist a story. I was not really concerned with him though, he did not play for the Dolphins, so why should I care. Then he gets traded to the Dolphins and my radar immediately went up. He showed what he could do in a big way and won me over. Then came "the retirement". In retrospect I think I understand what he did, but at the time I was disappointed and angry. Of course the media was all over it, wherever he went we all heard about it. Then he wants to come back, but has to serve a suspension for a year, then he comes back and gets suspended again, and then gets injured. I could not help but think this guy just was not worth it. He has proven me wrong. We all know the story, so I won't rehash it, but Ricky has won me over. The next time he leaves the team, he just might leave a bigger hole than the last time. I believe he means that much to his fans and teammates.
The other example is Brandon Marshall. When we first started hearing about him wanting to be traded and the Dolphins possible interest, I was dead set against it. Other than his play on the field, everything I heard and read from the press was negative. Why would you want a cancer like that on your team? I am from Orlando, where he played his college ball, and even here, all you heard was negative. Strangely, the local paper never talked about anything he did when playing for UCF, neither positive or negative and the athletic department at UCF had undergone a huge turnover, so no one there now, was with the university when he played . Thus, no feedback from them. Then came the trade. I am still not sold on him, but, he has made me listen and watch. What I have seen so far, has made me start to rethink my opinion of him. The jury is still out, but is swaying to his side.
So, what is the point of all this? Well, everyone is entitled to an opinion (though if yours is different than mine, you are wrong!! LOL) If an old fart like me can change his opinion, so can you. Argue all you want, but listen to the other side, there may be some merit in what they say.... or maybe not, but how will you know if you don't listen and accept the fact that there might be some merit to what the other guy says. Unless they are a Jest fan of course.